I have never heard , single or married, defend their extramarital physical relationships from a position of looking back on them.

The game changes when two people are romantically involved or "semi-involved" (a fascinating phrase I recently heard). Before you start throwing things at your computer, let's go to Scripture.In Song of Songs, God has given us a holy and beautiful picture of a marital sexual relationship, and everyone seems to be having an excellent time.Even there, however, God is clear that sex is "Do not arouse or awaken love before it so desires." (Song of Songs 2:7).We are to do this in light of what God has done for us in Christ and in light of Christ's impending return. For God did not call us to be impure, but to lead a holy life.Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his holy spirit." Look closely at verse 6.With respect to pre-marital, romantically oriented kissing, we're clearly talking about an area about which reasonable believers can (and do) disagree.Let me lay out what I view to be applicable biblical principles and passages on this topic.